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What goes wrong and what must change – An overdue debate

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This project documents on the one hand the family destruction in Germany, on the other hand, it delivers background information for a social debate which is overdue in Germany.

This work to the countless destroyed families, the Scheidungswaisen1, Trennungsvätern2, Zweitfrauen3 and all victims of the HelferInnenindustrie4 is dedicated. The contents are made up as follows:

  1. Definition: What is family real?
  2. Analysis: How is the family right structured, actually?
  3. Backgrounds: Which role plays the assistant's industry with the family destruction?
  4. Result: Which results does this have for society and citizen?
  5. Ways out: What is there in solution attempts?

Remarks to the contents, corrections in the text and tips to information to be continued are welcome and expressly welcome. They can send an email, with pleasure also anonymously by contact form. This work does not want to be read from A to Z. As with Wikipedia one can start somewhere, work the way along to himself from article to article and stop somewhere again. Good starting points are the table of contents, the subject index and the personal list.

zurückMotivation

The book deals with open wound of Germany, the families. The separation rate stagnates on high one, the natal rate stagnates at low level, the marriage ceremonies continuously decrease.
Since now to more 40 years are absent with a birth rate of 1.4 children per woman 1/3 of the younger generation to society-receiving 2.1 children per woman. German women, the children today could agree, were not already born 25 years ago, other are too occupied with the occupational career to get even children. Men are unnerved because of child extractions, to contact boycotts and shocking claims for maintenance after the separation.

„Nothing is more difficult and nothing requires more character, than to be in open contrast to his time and to say loudly: No!“Kurt Tucholsky5

Is the spirit of the times to blame? Or the loss of values and decay of the customs?
A doubtful ideological loading of the family concept prevents a necessary and overdue social discussion about the future of the family in Germany. Instead, ideologies like equalization, feminism and Genderismus control the discourse. The wrong family politics following from it and a breaking the banks assistant's industry endanger increasingly the family.

„With the truth it is like with a whore known to town. Everybody knows them, but it is embarrassing if one meets her on the street.“Wolfgang Borchert6

The politics further places on immigration instead of on own younger generation. The state destroys families, while he undermines the autonomy and own responsibility of the family by a family politics which regulates everything till the most intimate areas of life. Politicians promise in every election campaign to want to act a little bit „for the families“, however, it can be doubted whether they still know what family is and what puts out family. In addition a distended "HelferInnen and separation industry" lives on the family destruction like „grey men“ in Michael of end "Momo" of cigars from the dry time which they have obliged to save before people.

„The expansion of the welfare state undermines the initiative and the sense of responsibility. Since every singles have become an object more constantly of public worry in the society, the state penetrates deeper and deeper into the privacy.“Norbert Bolz7

A wide public discourse about the family in the society is overdue. The book would like to help which indicate contradictions and dilemmas of our time as well as get going a discussion to lead is worthwhile.

The publisher

zurückApportioning of blame

The book lays the finger in many open wounds, this hurts of course and the scream of those which feel grieved, will not be missing. Therefore, it would be pointed out only as a precaution to the fact that apportioning of blame is intended. Problem areas are described, the results are named and the overdue public discourse about the family in the society is should stimulate to the takeover of responsibility and not to mutual apportionings of blame. But just what concerns the state feminism, the publisher makes to himself no illusions because the feminist core business is the staging of the woman as a victim.

Unfortunately, the public discourse is strongly hindered in Germany by avoidance strategies. Thus Esther Vilar was insulted as a fascist, Eva Herman a nearness was subordinated to NS body of thought and Thilo Sarrazin was accused of racism.

Of course everybody may make to itself his own thoughts, carry out his interpretations and also maintain his prejudices. However, a publisher may also point in a preliminary remark to what is not said in his book, or what is not a subject of the book. The following tip is directed particularly to the feminist BetroffenheitsbeauftragtInnen, the conservative women's defence reflexes and green-left good people:

There is no segment which names „the women“ as a family destroyer. On the one hand personal failure is not a subject of the book and on the other hand the men would be also to be called with regard to personal responsibility in the same manner. If is said in the segment Separation that 60 to 80 percent of all separations are submitted by women, then no guilt is assigned with this fact statement, but the question is thrown up which structures work there which demonstrate so to many women opportunely to let arrange for instruments for the destruction of her families. It is obvious in such a way that the family destroyers use, among the rest, the women as a lever to take apart the families. Since beyond the personal level it is in such a way that with women massively resentments are poked against men and a substantially bigger social acceptance exists if a woman her husband leaves as bent. Moreover, lowers the view that her care is protected the woman also after the separation to lose the inhibition threshold, during with men the view, children and property, rather the inhibition threshold raises. The fact that women submit far frequent the separation has causes which lie beyond the women. Also the criminalisation and lack of rights of the man and the protection and the impunity of the woman create a structural imbalance between man and woman which can have a negative influence on the stability of the marriage. But in these structures men have also helped, so that for it women can be held responsible not collectively and also should not be added of the single separation-willing woman.

The book describes whole-social processes for which men as well as women are responsible. Though at many places it is pointed out to the fact that women are relieved at many places of the responsibility, for it only baby flap and wrong accusation are called exemplary. However, with it becomes only the imbalance problematisiert which originates from this unequal treatment of man and woman who should be equal after general manifestation.

The feminist division of the society in male culprits and female victims belongs to the essential factors which destabilise the families because thereby the resentment of the women is carried against men in the smallest cells of the society and does there his devastating work. The publisher defends himself vehemently against the splitting of the society in male culprits and female victims. Therefore, no segment of this book should be interpreted in such a way as if blame should be pinned in any form women unilaterally in the shoes. If women profit from certain laws and structures, this is a fact description and stands on another sheet. Apportionings of blame are no solution and the society-decomposing gender fight is to be finished. He should not be continued with reverse portents, possibly with the man as a victim and the woman as a culprit.

The publisher


  1. Separation orphans = the affected under-age children who have lost a parent
  2. Separation father = the father who was separated from his children by contact ban or contact boycott
  3. Second woman = The woman after the separation of the first woman and remarriage
  4. Assistant's industry, called also separation industry, exists of lawyers, women's houses, youth welfare department, advice centres, consultants, contact orderlies, therapists, briefly to all partners who earn on the destruction of a family.
  5. There Kurt Tucholsky, „The defence of the native country“, in: „The world stage“, 6th of October, 1921, p. 338 and the following
  6. Wolfgang Borchert, „Outdoors before the door“, Rowohlt in 1947, p. 33
  7. Norbert Bolz, in: „The heroes of the family“, quotes in: Before and family in the change
The family and her destroyers | What goes wrong and what must change – An overdue debate
Place of information
for married
Men and women

The family and her destroyers

What goes wrong and what must change – An overdue debate

Place of information
for married
Men and women

Start

This project documents on the one hand the family destruction in Germany, on the other hand, it delivers background information for a social debate which is overdue in Germany.

This work to the countless destroyed families, the Scheidungswaisen1, Trennungsvätern2, Zweitfrauen3 and all victims of the HelferInnenindustrie4 is dedicated. The contents are made up as follows:

  1. Definition: What is family real?
  2. Analysis: How is the family right structured, actually?
  3. Backgrounds: Which role plays the assistant's industry with the family destruction?
  4. Result: Which results does this have for society and citizen?
  5. Ways out: What is there in solution attempts?

Remarks to the contents, corrections in the text and tips to information to be continued are welcome and expressly welcome. They can send an email, with pleasure also anonymously by contact form. This work does not want to be read from A to Z. As with Wikipedia one can start somewhere, work the way along to himself from article to article and stop somewhere again. Good starting points are the table of contents, the subject index and the personal list.

zurückMotivation

The book deals with open wound of Germany, the families. The separation rate stagnates on high one, the natal rate stagnates at low level, the marriage ceremonies continuously decrease.
Since now to more 40 years are absent with a birth rate of 1.4 children per woman 1/3 of the younger generation to society-receiving 2.1 children per woman. German women, the children today could agree, were not already born 25 years ago, other are too occupied with the occupational career to get even children. Men are unnerved because of child extractions, to contact boycotts and shocking claims for maintenance after the separation.

„Nothing is more difficult and nothing requires more character, than to be in open contrast to his time and to say loudly: No!“Kurt Tucholsky5

Is the spirit of the times to blame? Or the loss of values and decay of the customs?
A doubtful ideological loading of the family concept prevents a necessary and overdue social discussion about the future of the family in Germany. Instead, ideologies like equalization, feminism and Genderismus control the discourse. The wrong family politics following from it and a breaking the banks assistant's industry endanger increasingly the family.

„With the truth it is like with a whore known to town. Everybody knows them, but it is embarrassing if one meets her on the street.“Wolfgang Borchert6

The politics further places on immigration instead of on own younger generation. The state destroys families, while he undermines the autonomy and own responsibility of the family by a family politics which regulates everything till the most intimate areas of life. Politicians promise in every election campaign to want to act a little bit „for the families“, however, it can be doubted whether they still know what family is and what puts out family. In addition a distended "HelferInnen and separation industry" lives on the family destruction like „grey men“ in Michael of end "Momo" of cigars from the dry time which they have obliged to save before people.

„The expansion of the welfare state undermines the initiative and the sense of responsibility. Since every singles have become an object more constantly of public worry in the society, the state penetrates deeper and deeper into the privacy.“Norbert Bolz7

A wide public discourse about the family in the society is overdue. The book would like to help which indicate contradictions and dilemmas of our time as well as get going a discussion to lead is worthwhile.

The publisher

zurückApportioning of blame

The book lays the finger in many open wounds, this hurts of course and the scream of those which feel grieved, will not be missing. Therefore, it would be pointed out only as a precaution to the fact that apportioning of blame is intended. Problem areas are described, the results are named and the overdue public discourse about the family in the society is should stimulate to the takeover of responsibility and not to mutual apportionings of blame. But just what concerns the state feminism, the publisher makes to himself no illusions because the feminist core business is the staging of the woman as a victim.

Unfortunately, the public discourse is strongly hindered in Germany by avoidance strategies. Thus Esther Vilar was insulted as a fascist, Eva Herman a nearness was subordinated to NS body of thought and Thilo Sarrazin was accused of racism.

Of course everybody may make to itself his own thoughts, carry out his interpretations and also maintain his prejudices. However, a publisher may also point in a preliminary remark to what is not said in his book, or what is not a subject of the book. The following tip is directed particularly to the feminist BetroffenheitsbeauftragtInnen, the conservative women's defence reflexes and green-left good people:

There is no segment which names „the women“ as a family destroyer. On the one hand personal failure is not a subject of the book and on the other hand the men would be also to be called with regard to personal responsibility in the same manner. If is said in the segment Separation that 60 to 80 percent of all separations are submitted by women, then no guilt is assigned with this fact statement, but the question is thrown up which structures work there which demonstrate so to many women opportunely to let arrange for instruments for the destruction of her families. It is obvious in such a way that the family destroyers use, among the rest, the women as a lever to take apart the families. Since beyond the personal level it is in such a way that with women massively resentments are poked against men and a substantially bigger social acceptance exists if a woman her husband leaves as bent. Moreover, lowers the view that her care is protected the woman also after the separation to lose the inhibition threshold, during with men the view, children and property, rather the inhibition threshold raises. The fact that women submit far frequent the separation has causes which lie beyond the women. Also the criminalisation and lack of rights of the man and the protection and the impunity of the woman create a structural imbalance between man and woman which can have a negative influence on the stability of the marriage. But in these structures men have also helped, so that for it women can be held responsible not collectively and also should not be added of the single separation-willing woman.

The book describes whole-social processes for which men as well as women are responsible. Though at many places it is pointed out to the fact that women are relieved at many places of the responsibility, for it only baby flap and wrong accusation are called exemplary. However, with it becomes only the imbalance problematisiert which originates from this unequal treatment of man and woman who should be equal after general manifestation.

The feminist division of the society in male culprits and female victims belongs to the essential factors which destabilise the families because thereby the resentment of the women is carried against men in the smallest cells of the society and does there his devastating work. The publisher defends himself vehemently against the splitting of the society in male culprits and female victims. Therefore, no segment of this book should be interpreted in such a way as if blame should be pinned in any form women unilaterally in the shoes. If women profit from certain laws and structures, this is a fact description and stands on another sheet. Apportionings of blame are no solution and the society-decomposing gender fight is to be finished. He should not be continued with reverse portents, possibly with the man as a victim and the woman as a culprit.

The publisher


  1. Separation orphans = the affected under-age children who have lost a parent
  2. Separation father = the father who was separated from his children by contact ban or contact boycott
  3. Second woman = The woman after the separation of the first woman and remarriage
  4. Assistant's industry, called also separation industry, exists of lawyers, women's houses, youth welfare department, advice centres, consultants, contact orderlies, therapists, briefly to all partners who earn on the destruction of a family.
  5. There Kurt Tucholsky, „The defence of the native country“, in: „The world stage“, 6th of October, 1921, p. 338 and the following
  6. Wolfgang Borchert, „Outdoors before the door“, Rowohlt in 1947, p. 33
  7. Norbert Bolz, in: „The heroes of the family“, quotes in: Before and family in the change